Author: Jin Lee Ching
Company: JMB ASSOCIATES SDN BHD
Profession: Life Insurance & Financial Services
Position: Agency Manager
《I Deserve Love — Rebuilding My Life From The Ground Up》
Hello, I’m Jin. In my thirties, my marriage came to an end. I found myself at rock bottom with three young sons, only six, four, and three years old. I had no job, no house, and no personal connections to rely on. During the most difficult period, I was so financially strained that I could not even afford more than RM3,000 in divorce legal fees. It was then that I understood something deeply: a woman must have the ability to support herself and build a life that belongs to her.
To provide for my three young children, I made a decision that was completely outside my comfort zone. Naturally introverted and not good with words, I entered the insurance industry and began doing what frightened me most—approaching strangers. I had no resources and no network. All I had were my own two feet. I knocked on doors, one family after another. When I was rejected, I gathered myself and walked to the next door. At that point in my life, I simply did not have many choices. Looking back, perhaps it was precisely because there was no way back that I learned to keep moving forward. Step by step, the road I once thought I could never walk became a road of my own.
For more than twenty years in the insurance industry, I grew from a single mother with nothing behind me into a Million Dollar Round Table achiever, a Court of the Table achiever, and eventually a leader with my own team. Yet what makes me most grateful is not the recognition or achievements. It is knowing that I had the strength to raise my three sons and carry my family through those difficult years. Today, my youngest son has also entered the insurance industry, continuing the career that once helped hold our family together.
This year, I am fifty-six years old. Now that my children are grown, I have finally begun giving more time back to myself. I study, travel, and continue exploring psychology and mind-body-spirit growth. Looking back, I realise that what I gained was far more than a career and far more than the ability to raise my children. Along the way, I rediscovered my dignity, my value, and most importantly, my ability to choose the life I want.
To every woman who may be going through a difficult season, especially single mothers, I want to say this: **do not wait for someone to come and rescue you. First, give yourself the ability to stand again. Learn to be independent, learn to rely on yourself, and learn to love yourself well.
Always believe: I deserve love. I am worthy of being loved. When you begin to take care of your own life, you develop the confidence to choose who walks beside you, and the strength to decide what kind of life you truly want to live.
That is what freedom truly means.
— Jin Lee Ching