Author: Winnie Lee
Company: IMMA Management & Advisory Sdn. Bhd.
Profession: Education
Position: Trainer/ Coach
01 | Wound: When Reality Shattered My Expectations
Some things feel like they only happen in movies.
For example—getting married and, just two months later, choosing to end the marriage.
But it truly happened to me.
I used to be very naive—innocent about love and unaware of what marriage truly meant.
I thought marriage was simple— that as long as you married someone you loved,
you would live happily ever after like a prince and princess in a fairy tale.
The breakdown of that marriage became a heavy blow in my life.
I once defined it as the biggest failure of my life and even wished I had never gone through it.
It was a period filled with struggle, self-doubt, and confusion.
02 | Awakening: I Began to See Myself Clearly
Yet it was in that lowest point that I began to see myself.
I chose to end the marriage not because I didn’t try hard enough,
but because I could clearly see that if I continued,
I would not only lose my true self,
but might also face consequences I could not foresee.
Even though I was pregnant at the time, I still made that decision.
It was not impulsive—
it was a choice made through awakening.
03 | Realization: Love Does Not Mean Compatibility
Later, in a course called “Life Quantum Leap”,
I heard Dr. Elias Sim say:
“Before marriage, you negotiate.
After marriage, you fall in love.
If you continue negotiating after marriage,
you will only damage the relationship.” In that moment, I was stunned.
Those words were like a mirror, showing me my past self—
someone deeply immersed in love, yet unaware of the realities of marriage:
values, lifestyle, division of responsibilities, finances, and future direction.
Only then did I realize—
from the very beginning,
I had never truly had those conversations.
Many relationships do not fall apart because there is no love,
but because from the start,
we never truly saw each other clearly
nor truly understood one another.
04 | Healing & Transformation: I No Longer Define Myself as a Failure
Slowly, I began my journey of self-healing.
I learned to accept my imperfections,
understand my choices,
and stop defining that experience as a “failure.”
Because I came to realize—
it was not a failure,
but a profound lesson life had given me.
I am grateful that this unfortunate marriage
became a blessing in disguise.
It gave me a child,
and through my child’s presence,
I learned a deeper kind of love and responsibility.
05 | Rebirth: She Rises
More importantly, I began to believe
that even as a single mother,
I can still give my child a complete home
and a complete love.
Today, I am no longer just someone who has “been through it,”
but someone who is actively creating a new life.
This extraordinary experience
has led me to value personal growth more deeply
and to redefine my life.
I stepped into a new path—
becoming a motivational speaker,
sharing my life journey with others,
and using my life to impact lives.
From my wounds, I chose—
not just to survive, but to awaken;
not just to endure, but to transform;
not just to remain who I was,
but to rise into who I am becoming.
Closing | To Those Who Are Struggling
If you are going through a difficult time,
please believe this—
you are not being defeated;
you are being awakened.
Every wound is a place where light enters.
The experiences you have gone through are not scars,
but blessings that allow you to shine.
And you, too, can choose to restart a life that truly belongs to you.
Received numerous honors and awards in the social work also has achieved some small successes in life.
Certified Trainer under HRD Corp Malaysia
Best Speaker Award (Pearl Women Entrepreneur Awards 2023)
Certified Youth Empowerment (No Apologies) Mentor
Certified OH Cards & Therapeutic Card Facilitator
Former Mentor at the Asia Best Leadership International Training Group
Wealth and Joy Board Game Coach
AI Workshop Trainer (Strategic Partner with Penang State Education Department)
Coach on Ai FM Radio’s “Hua Long Dian Jing: Asia Excellence Coaching Arena”
Invited Speaker for AI Workshops and Motivational Talks in Primary & Secondary Schools