Author: Joan Fong Siew Sian
Company: Holistic Growth Business Academy
Professional: HRD Corp–Certified Trainer and Human Resources Department Mentor.
Founder of XuanShu Business Integration, a system combining ancient wisdom with the LVB framework to help entrepreneurs and business owners anticipate trends, plan strategically, and understand both their own natural strengths and those of their core team members.
Your Decision, Your Life Transformed
It was Mother’s Day.
My social feed was flooded with flowers, cakes, and smiling children.
But I sat alone in a quiet living room — not surrounded by laughter, but by silence.
No child’s embrace, not even a simple “Happy Mother’s Day.”
Only a glass of cold water beside me.
Looking at my phone, my heart ached as I asked myself:
“Why does happiness come so easily to others, but not to me?”
Since young, my parents told me: A woman’s security lies in marrying a good man.
I believed them.
So I married a man who appeared proper and refined, thinking I had found my safe haven.
But instead, it became the beginning of my nightmare.
Life after marriage was not sweet — it was filled with disappointment.
The more I endured, the more I was ignored.
The more I gave in, the more I was taken for granted.
Until one day, I broke down and realized:
My kindness is precious — not everyone deserves it.
For a long time, I wondered if I was just unlucky, if it was fate.
But I finally understood:
What hurt me wasn’t destiny — it was the wrong choices I kept making.
I had no connections, no degree, no strong background.
I waited for someone to help me, waited for luck to arrive, thinking one day it would be my turn.
But instead, I was laid off.
And in that painful moment, I woke up:
Don’t wait for opportunity — become the opportunity.
So, I chose differently.
I studied metaphysics, earned my trainer and consultant certifications.
For the first time, I knew — my life’s direction was mine to choose.
I still remember the first time I stood on stage, my heart racing.
But when someone in the audience cried and said,
“Thank you for helping me find my direction,”
I realized that the pain I had endured could become someone else’s light.
Today, I help entrepreneurs and leaders align their timing, strategy, and people —
to make the right decisions at the right time and place.
Some avoided costly failures; others rediscovered harmony between career and family.
Through it all, I’ve learned:
True value is not written by fate, but shaped by choice.
And in love, too — a woman must first stand strong and independent
before she can meet a love that truly sees her worth.
Be brave in your choices,
and life will unfold with joy, clarity, and abundance.
Predict Early. Plan Wisely. Live Better.